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Tips to reduce Stress

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Stress is the feeling of being under too much mental or emotional pressure, when you feel unable to cope, which can cause health problems

We all experience stress at one stage or another. It can be caused by health issues, money worries, constant worrying, loneliness, pressure at work, no work, lack of control, family problems, bereavement, divorce and many other reasons.  Stress is recognised to be one of the main causes of sick absence from work and it seems that more and more children are suffering with stress due to school or peer pressure.  However, a situation that feels stressful to one person may be motivating to someone else and this can be down to our past experiences, our leant behaviours, our thought processes and our own level of self-esteem.

So how can hypnotherapy help reduce stress levels……………..

Stress is caused by our subconscious protecting us.  We may go into a fight or flight response when we are in an uncomfortable situation.  Our subconscious can’t tell the difference between what is real and what we are imagining so it sometimes acts as if we are in a life threatening situation when in fact all we are doing is for eg. a presentation in front of 20 people or starting a new job!  We are then left with all this extra energy with nowhere for it to go.  This can leave us with feelings of stress, anxiety, anger, depression, frustration, insomnia and mood swings

Being stressed is a physical reaction as much as an emotional one. Stress is everywhere in our lives these days. You cannot change that, but you can change your reaction to it.  The aim is to find ways of managing stress and using it to our advantage

Self-hypnosis – tips for relaxation

Hypnosis is known to be a powerful tool to help reduce stress.  In fact, hypnotherapy for stress can be effective even after just one session

You can complement your hypnotherapy sessions with self-hypnosis at home.

1. Find a place where you can relax and be free of too many distractions e.g. your favourite chair, lying on your bed.

2. Take in a slow deep breath, imagining you are breathing in positive thoughts and feelings and then gently close your eyes.  As you exhale, relax your body as much as you can and blow away any worries, stress and negative thoughts.

3. Count down from 10 -1 with each deep breath, feeling yourself sinking deeper and deeper into the chair.  When you get to 1, imagine the most peaceful place for you, whether it’s a tropical beach, a beautiful garden or maybe your home.

4. Then repeat positive affirmations.  For eg.  I am calm…..I am relaxed…..I am in control

Whatever you say to yourself in your mind, make sure it is positive (so don’t say to yourself…I am not stressed… as the subconscious does not recognise the negative.)

After approximately 2 mins, you can count out 1,2,3, open your eyes and continue with your day.  I if you do this every day for two weeks, you will find that you start to think more positively.

 

Hypnobirthing – The Wise Hippo

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Hypnobirthing, the Wise Hippo Way is a fun, educational preparation class for pregnant women and their birthing partners.  Why a hippo you may ask?  Well, if a female hippo can go off and birth her babies easily and without a fuss, why can’t us human females do the same?

I absolutely love teaching this course as it enables women to actually look forward to the birth of their baby, rather than fearing it.  Hypnobirthing is not just about birthing babies, it’s empowering women to make the right choices for them and their babies.  Hypnobirthing is not against medical intervention, it’s against unnecessary intervention.

Wouldn’t it be great to look back at your birth experience as a positive one whether you have a natural birth without pain relief, a caesarean, an epidural or water birth.  Whatever turn your birthing takes, you will look back at it feeling in control.

Group classes are run on Saturday mornings or Tuesday evenings in N21 / Enfield

http://www.123relax.co.uk/hypnobirthing-r

Bridgette Mansfield Hypnotherapy

07932 084 321

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Top tips for Christmas

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Top tips for Christmas

I love Christmas – watching the kids open their presents, spending time with friends and family, fantastic food, a tipple or two, singing on the karaoke, winning all the board games…I could go on but that’s enough about me!

However, sometimes this time of year brings over indulgence, arguments and having to put up with relatives you haven’t seen all year!

So here’s a few tips to help you to stay in control.  It’s all about moderation.  We all need to have fun and enjoy ourselves or life would be very dull.

  • For those of you who like to have a drink, make sure you have a glass of water in between each alcoholic drink.  Just doing this will not only stop you drinking as much but also keep you hydrated so the hang over won’t be so bad.
  • Have a glass of water before you put anything to eat in your mouth. This will help you to realise if you are actually hungry or just thirsty.
  • Only eat when you are actually hungry for food and not hungry for love, excitement or to overcome boredom or stress
  • Take a deep breath and relax your shoulders when in the company of someone who irritates you!  Don’t over react and cause an unnecessary scene!
HYPNOTHERAPY IN WINCHMORE HILL, N21 –
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 for the first 10 people who respond to this offer

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If you are stuggling with what to get your loved ones for Christmas, then why not help them achieve their New Year resolutions by treating them to a hypnosis session.  You can buy a voucher – just click this button!  

And why not help yourself…..we can help you to stop smoking, lose weight, sleep well, gain confidence, the list goes on …..have a look at the testimonials .  We are friendly, informal, affordable and here to help, so no matter what your concern is – get in touch and book your session in for January now!   Or call 07932 084 321 for a no-obligation chat.

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas!

Fear of Hypnosis

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The Fear of Hypnosis

Many people are afraid of hypnosis.  The reason for this is that they don’t really know what hypnosis is.  Some people imagine spinning eyes, like Kaa in Jungle Book.  When thinking of hypnosis, some people think that it is something that is done to you sometimes against your will!

So I am going to dispel the myths of hypnosis.  Here are some questions people ask me:

Are you going to make me cluck around like a chicken?  No

Will I be made to do something I don’t want to do or wouldn’t normally do?         No, you can’t be made to do anything that you don’t want to do.

What are you going to do to me?  I‘m not going to ‘do’ anything to you.  All hypnosis is self hypnosis, I just guide you into hypnosis and give you the tools and information you need to overcome your problem.

Will I be asleep?  No, but it can feel like a state of deep relaxation  – the  state you naturally go into when going to sleep at night.  So, it’s more like how you feel just before you go to sleep or when you first wake up in the morning when you are so relaxed you just can’t be bothered to move.

Will I be able to drive afterwards?  Yes

What does hypnosis feel like?  People have different experiences in hypnosis.  Some feel light, some feel heavy, some may get tingles in hteir hands or feet.  Daydreaming is a form of hypnosis

Can I get stuck in hypnosis?  No, just like you can’t get stuck in a daydream.

What if I can’t go into hypnosis?  Everyone over the age of 5 and who can follow instructions is hypnotisable.  The only reason you wouldn’t go into hypnosis is if you stop yourself.  It’s all about aloowing yourself to go into hypnosis.

Hypnotherapy is very effective in helping you with many areas in your life.

If there is anything else you would like to know about hypnosis, send an email to info@123relax.co.uk

 

Stoptober

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I actually can’t believe that I used to smoke – what a stupid thing to do.  Stopping smoking was one of the best things I have ever done.  What a relief to not be desperate for a Malborough light when stuck in a traffic jam and my packet is empty – that awful, almost panicky feeling!  What a relief to know that I am not contributing to possible health problems.  What a relief that I am free from that stinky stale smell, plus I have more money to spend on nice things.  In fact, I have worked it out, I am approx. £2912 a year better off!!  Wow, that’s a lot of money…..hmm, what shall I buy now?

This October, lots of people are taking part in the 28 day challenge to stop smoking .  Are you one of them?  If you are, congratulations, you should be very proud of yourself.  If you aren’t but would like to (or are desperate to) stop smoking, hypnosis can help you.

In just one session you can become a proud, happy  NON-SMOKER. I use a special method that combines hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP).  I help you break the connections with smoking, whether they are emotional (such as stress or boredom) or physical (such as after a meal or with a drink).  Sometimes, smokers worry that by giving up, they will gain weight or they worry about what they will do with their hands.  I give you powerful suggestions so that there will be no increase in your appetite on becoming a     NON-SMOKER.

For those of you who have tried stopping smoking just using willpower, quitting smoking may have been difficult for the first few days. However the powerful hypnosis techniques can help you get through this period much more easily.

So, what will you do with all that extra cash??

http://www.123relax.co.uk/stop-smoking

 

 

Look good for the party season and lose weight once and forever.

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There are only 13 weeks till Christmas! Yay (Sorry, I had to get that in!)
This means, that if you wanted to,  you could lose a couple of stones comfortably and safely before Christmas
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So, is it the right time for you to lose weight and deal with the underlying causes for over eating once and forever? Then click here…

Have you  tried every diet going, only to feel like a failure when you haven’t reached your target weight? Or maybe you are one of those people who did achieve their goal only to pile it all back on once you came off the diet.  Well, the good news is that the only lasting results come from changing your eating habits and learning to eat how slim people do.

Perhaps your self-esteem has taken a beating because you are upset with your inability to stay on a diet. If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought ‘yuk!,” then you know that hideous feeling

Have you ever disbelieved one of your slim, beautiful friends when they have said something like this – ‘I eat all I want and don’t gain any weight.’  Maybe you thought, ‘Yeah right!  They must be starving themselves.’  Well the truth is, is that they do eat all they want they just don’t have the desire or need to overeat or snack on unhealthy foods

The safest, kindest way to lose weight is to deal with the emotional reasons why you are overeating. ‘Using’ food to solve problems or make yourself feel better doesn’t work.  You may not even be aware that you are eating ‘emotionally’.

So if you are bored, read a book.  If you feel unloved, call a friend, or if you feel sad, watch a funny film.  There are a lot of other things you can do to solve your emotional needs rather than stuffing down a cream cake.   If you are eating to feed an emotion, the food will not take away that emotional pain but actually add to it as you will then feel like you have let yourself down by eating when not physically hungry and stopping yourself from acheiving your goal weight.

We can help you to increase your self–esteem, boost your motivation and determination to achieve your target weight.  You will also learn how to discern ‘real’ hunger from ‘fake’ hunger and find out what triggers your overeating and bingeing.  By eliminating negative self-talk and be your own best friend, you can become a happier, better person

A great tip – every time you think you are hungry – drink a glass of water first!  Make this your habit.

Losing weight through hypnosis is one of the safest, long term ways of achieving and maintaining  weight loss sensibly.  Most overweight people are simply eating more food than their body requires. There is a reason why you do this and hypnotherapy enables you to recognise when you are physically hungry and when you are emotionally hungry (e.g. when you are bored, depressed etc).
Not only will you lose weight , but you will actually take pleasure from saying ‘NO’ to any foods that will interfere with you losing weight.  Most clients leave the sessions feeling optimistic and in control of their weight.
If you would like to know more about hypnotherapy and how it could help you or a loved-one, please visit my website or just give me a call.
So book in now to get all your sessions before Christmas so that you can fit into that dress for any special do’s you have coming up!

So why contact us?  No matter what you are facing, we are sure that we can help you.  We have a proven track record of success – just look at the testimonials .  We are friendly, informal, affordable and here to help, so no matter what your concern is – get in touch and we can have a no-obligation chat so you can “set yourself free”.

It is National No Smoking Day on Wednesday 13th March

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It is National No Smoking Day on Wednesday 13th March 

Would you like to say ‘No’ to the offer of  a cigarette standing outside in the freezing cold on 13th March and feel good about it?

Are you embarrassed about that stink on your breath or clothes?
Do you feel ashamed that cigarettes have a control over you?
Do you want to improve your health / breathe easier?
Are the cost of cigarettes hurting your pocket?
Are friends and family nagging you?
Are you afraid of an extra risk of cancer?

If you have answered yes to any of the above, then read on…….

Are you scared to stop or making excuses?
How will you deal with stress?  What if you fail?  What if you succeed?  These fears cause you to sabotage any attempt to stop.  You can overcome these fears if you understand them – you will find a way to work it out.

If what you are doing isn’t working, then do something else ………….stop trying to stop with the methods you have used and failed with, because they don’t work for you. For example, if using nicotine patches doesn’t help you to stop smoking, taking nicotine some other way isn’t likely to help you stop smoking either.

Think about how you can stop?
WillPower…….Acupuncture………..Patches………..and of course…………. Hypnosis………… (one of the best ways to help you stop – just have a look at my testimonials :).  I’m sure you know someone who has stopped smoking but the method that they used doesn’t necessarily signify it is the right method for you (but of course it might be :).

P.S.
There are many people out there promising they can stop you smoking.  The only person who can stop you smoking is YOU.  A therapist can HELP you to stop smoking.  When choosing the right therapist for you, check their qualifications.  Money back guarantees are usually a bad idea and more expensive does not mean better.

How are you doing with your New Year’s Resolutions?

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How are you doing with your New Year’s Resolutions?

If you’ve been successful, congratulations!  If not, don’t feel bad that you joined the gym, went a couple of times and haven’t been since…… most people break theirs after a couple of days! Read on…..

Did you focus on what you ’should’ do and not on what you want or build in failure before you have even started?   This is an easy trap to fall into. After all, there are plenty of things we probably ’should do’, ‘ought to’, ‘have to’ that didn’t seem a lot of fun, at any time of year and then build in failure on top of that and you have practically hypnotised yourself to fail.
The following start with ‘problem focused’ statements. It’s a classic case of ‘don’t think of a pink elephant’ – your brain can’t process these statements without making you think about what youdon’t want.

Make the following changes:

‘I should really lose some weight’      to      ‘I’m going to look fantastic in my bikini on the beach!’
‘I need to get fit this year’      to      ‘I want to have a toned body’
‘I ought to give up smoking’      to      ‘ ‘I am going to have a clean smelling breath!’
‘I have to do my tax return’      to      ‘My tax return will be dealt with on time’
‘I must cut down on my drinking’      to      ‘I am going to look after my mind and body’
“I’m going to lose that 15 pounds this year, I hope”      to      ‘I am going to achieve my target weight’
“I’m going to try to lose those 15 pounds”      to      ‘I will be my desired weight’
“I’m going to lose 15 pounds—at least for a while.”      to      ‘I will be slim and fit for life’

Did you rely on willpower?  Smokers are particularly fond of this one. The idea is that if you exert enough of this magical force, you will somehow be able to overcome your real desires (’cravings’, ‘temptations’ etc) and stop yourself doing what you desperately want to (smoking cigarettes, eating cream buns, drinking too much etc.).
The big problem with willpower is that it’s hard work. You have to force yourself to go to the gym and remember not to eat that cream bun! You have to be vigilant at all times, avoiding giving in to weakness.  After all, you’re only human – sooner or later, your resolution cracks and you wake up the next morning cross with yourself for not being strong enough to resist temptation.
Fortunately with the use of hypnosis, you don’t need to worry about willpower.

The only way to keep a resolution is to get the subconscious and the conscious in agreement.  If our conscious was the part that was in control, it would be easy to stop smoking/drinking/biting nails, however it’s the subconscious that is control and that is why we need to access it and the best way to do that is through hypnosis.So why contact us?  No matter what you are facing, we are sure that we can help you.  We have a proven track record of success – just look at the testimonials .  We are friendly, informal, affordable and here to help, so no matter what your concern is – get in touch and we can have a no-obligation chat so you can “set yourself free”.

Weight Control.

February is a great time to reaccess your eating habits and finally get rid of those extra pounds forever.  So, if you started a diet in January and you have already given up, hypnosis is the way forward for you.  Losing weight through hypnosis is not about dieting (the word ‘diet’ puts your subconsious into a state of alert, self survival kicks in thus making you want to eat more  just incase you are going to starve).  It’s about looking after yourself and being kind to your body.  You will find the weight comes off easily and effortlessly – and you don’t have to rely on willpower!

Want to find out what HypnoBirthing(The Mongan Method) is all about?  I will be doing a free talk at the end of Jackie’s yoga class in St Peter’s Hall, Vera Avenue, Grange Park, N21 this Thursday 7th February at 7.30pm.   It is an opportunity for you to meet us and to hear more about the benefits of HypnoBirthing and how it can help pregnant mothers and their partners.  This is absolutely FREE to attend.  Please email us to register your interest and we will do the rest.

Spiders in your house?

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Fear of Spiders?

There are so many hanging around at the moment aren’t there.

I had a fear of spiders for as long as I can remember.   I remember being in my first year of senior school and being chased around the classroom by boys holding daddy long legs.  I can still remember that panic – my heart was beating so fast I thought it would burst out of my chest.  I could hardly breathe and tears were streaming down my face, smearing my mascara.  Not a good look for a teenager trying to impress her peers I can tell you!  My fear continued until 7 years ago……

I knew that I had to do something about my phobia when , a few months after my first son was born,  I was hanging out the washing.  I knew I had only a couple of minutes before my baby woke up but I was so worried that there may be spiders lurking in the peg bag that it took me 10 times as long to do a simple job.   This really annoyed me,  as I am a busy girl, things to do, nappies to change, babies to feed and I just haven’t got time for all this silliness, so I decided to do something about it.  To cut a long story short, I took a few deep breaths, had a word with myself and cured myself.  I can now put my hand in the peg bag as quickly as I want.

I can remove a spider from a situation (using a friendly spider catcher) but I will admit that I will not hold one.  However, I don’t actually want to be able to hold one and I believe that my life is not affected just because I don’t want to stroke a furry spider! (However, I wouldn’t scream and shout if one crawled on me.  I would calmly and gently brush it off with no panic)

If you are one of the many people suffering with a spider phobia you will be relieved to know that you can overcome your fear of spiders.  Your fear of spiders is a learnt response.  You weren’t born fearing them, it may simply stem from being told as a child to be wary of them or you may have seen someone else scared of them but it doesn’t really matter what the cause was anyway.  And because of this it means that your fear can be stopped.

On a conscious level, you know that your fear of spiders is irrational, however the fear has persisted because your very clever subconscious mind has associated fear and panic to the very thought of spiders.  These asscociations can be changed using an effective combination of NLP & hypnotherapy, enabling you to overcome your fear of spiders.

Just imagine being able to sleep in your bed even after seeing one scarper under the dressing table!

 

 

 

Why to blog….

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Following the ‘we-network’ meeting on the 6th to celebrate their first birthday bash, we suggested having guest bloggers as a great way to add fresh content to your own blog.  Bridgette as quick as a flash asked me to do a guest blog for her and what better subject to write it on than blogging itself.

I believe that out of all the ‘social media’ frameworks that you can use the most important one is to have a blog…  what is a blog ? I hear you cry, well a blog is an additional CMS (content management system) i.e. WordPress that your web host or indeed I can add to your site, this is a really important point, it MUST be on your actual site, there are lots of free blogging platforms out there blogger and wordpress.com which is not to be confused with wordpress.org which is the one you need.  These are great for folks who simply have a hobby or share their personal world, you may ask why does it have to be linked to my site? The answer being that the whole reason to have a blog is to lure people to your site, if you use one of the free ones the hits are going to blogger or tumblr or whoever it  might be, it’s like when you upload a Youtube video, you must make sure that when you share the video you have embedded it into your blog and that is the link you share  not the link to YouTube, they get quite enough hits as it is thank you very much.

So what to blog about ? well with Bridgette for instance there is a wealth of information, lots of people have their own perceptions of hypnosis and have the fear that they will end up dancing like a chicken or it will change them in some way, so Bridgette could get across the fact that you are conscious the whole time and fully aware.

The main cusp of the blog is a way you become the expert in your field, you must NEVER sell using your blog as soon as people see any kind of sales they will be off.

The ideas for content are:

Frequently asked questions, take one at a time and write a blog about it

Compare products that you use, pro’s and con’s

Guest Blogs

The best way to…

What’s trending ?, is there a subject that is trending that you could write about

The Google keyword tool is a great resource to help with blog titles, you can watch my video here about how to use it. http://www.lucyswebdesigns.co.uk/video-how-tos

Finally here are the top plugins to add to your blog

Social Media Widget

Facebook Like Box – or text

Digg Digg

Tweet Old Posts

Pinterest Pinboard Widget

Have fun out there blogging and be sure to share your links here once you have completed them, we look forward to reading them.

 

Written by Lucy Hall of Lucy’s Web Designs

Lucy Hall

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